This thing is a BEAST! I honestly wonder if people in real life had to complete this profile BEFORE having kids, then there would NOT be any children looking for a home in this world. They asked us (each mind you) about how we met, our courtship, why do we like being married, memories from childhood dealing with your mom, dad, siblings, grandparents, and school. They asked about how our parents showed love, anger, disappointment. They asked about our feelings towards nudity, how would we discipline without spanking --they even asked us to list the methods we will use. They asked us would we be willing to give up our pet if the child has allergies, would we support the child if they one day want to find their biological family, how would we react to the child speaking idealistically about their abusive parents...they asked would we take it to heart and be offended if the child one day decides to find their family. They asked what methods we plan on using to raise the children, and another (but obviously not ALL of the questions from the 30 page profile), they asked us under what circumstance, would we ever return the child....to which I answered...if the child tried to kill me. I feel this way, because if that ever happened, then obviously, my attempts to reach out, are NOT working, and I can not trust a person after something like that....
It was discouraging completing this profile while in the midst of it. I kept feeling like 30 pages, is a LOT of rope to hang oneself! I felt extremely nervous....I felt myself wondering if my husband would go along now...he wants the child, but as one can imagine, anyone would feel overwhelmed and defeated when confronted with a 30 page profile. He says he wants to complete it, but each time he looks at his, I see him look a little depressed. I know another part of his worry, is that he has been asking me about mine, and he is a little worried about the portion that deals with him losing his mother, and his memories of his mother from his childhood. I know he is NOT looking forward to re-hashing such painful memories, as remembering her, will surely bring back the pain of losing her again.
And then, on page 31 of the profile, we learned that we have to create a photo profile. Kinda like an ad campaign of why someone should pick us to adopt a child. We need pictures of friends, family, our dog....we are supposed to make our family look "fun." We have to put all of these pictures together, and then WE are responsible for getting TWENTY COLOR profiles created to be given out to various agencies.
On this portion, I intend to ask TP if we can only submit one photo profile since we already know the children we want -- "Dee," and "Bree".
And so with the end of this blog today, my next steps are to begin compiling pictures of my family, friends, and dog; take pictures of my house; begin addressing another question asked about how I would make the house safe (purchasing outlet covers, and cabinet locks), and trying to calm my frazzled nerves about this entire process as I begin to feel increasingly more and more nervous with all of the attached tasks recently given.
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