And so today it began. After a week of shot nerves, my husband and I traveled to the foothills of NC to meet with the social worker and the guardian ad litum (spelling wrong, but they are appointed by the courts to keep the best interest of the boys in mind) of the boys we wish to adopt.
As most may know, they were forecasting freezing rain today, not here in this area, but the further north one traveled, they expected ice. It was even to the point where the school districts all up along that way were operating on 2 and 3 hour delays this morning!
I was so distraught! I didn’t want to have to put this off! I didn’t want to work myself into a frenzy again!!!! Already, yesterday at work I walked out and left my sweater, I forgot to grab my laptop, and I forgot my teacher’s edition of one of the books I utilize in class! My nerves were SHOT! I did NOT want to go through this again! But, by the grace of God, the weather cooperated, and the temperatures rose to the mid 30’s, allowing us to travel.
When we arrived, we were greeted by our social worker, and the other couple we were up against. We were shocked to see that the other couple was dressed in jeans, after the social worker had specified that we, “dress for success.” They said they were too nervous to think about dressing any other way???? Ok. I let that one go!
At any rate, my hubby and I sat in the waiting room, patiently reading our research. We read over the profiles of the two boys so that we could intimately discuss them in the meeting, and we read over articles we had both found online that addressed how we could help them since both have been diagnosed with a slight speech delay stemming from neglect.
Finally, our turn came, and we went into the room. In the meeting, it was me, my hubby, our social worker, their social worker, and their guardian. Our meeting was scheduled to begin at 11 am, but it didn’t begin until 11:05, and we were not finished until around 12:15, 12:20.
They asked all kinds of questions—why were we the best for these two, how would we handle tantrums, how would we handle potty training, how would we handle picky eaters, would we be a partnership or would one person be the primary caregiver, do we have issues with cuddling, etc.
Once finished, we felt so drained! We were led back out of the room, down the winding, maze-like hallways, back to the front of the building, were we exited, and headed home.
On the highway, our social worker called us, and told us that between us, and the other couple interviewed today, they liked US! Said that we were definitely the choice over them….however, she said they dropped a bomb on her today—they have yet another couple to interview on Monday. A couple she knew nothing about, and couldn’t get the social worker to reveal anything about to her. She was very upset about that sneak factor involved—VERY upset!
So, now we are faced with yet another waiting game. Now we must wait for the other couple to interview on Monday, and secretly harbor in our hearts, the desire that these people not outshine us, so that we can take the adorable little boys home with us!
Please continue to pray for us,
Awaiting Parenthood.
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